You don’t have to heal by yourself.

Join us for our virtual, 6-week support groups for religious trauma recovery.

Starting September 2026, only $60 USD

Themed Support Groups for September + October 2026

These groups are intentionally small, supportive, educational, and practical. Participants often tell me that one of the most healing aspects is simply discovering they are not the only person on this journey.

Rebel Yell: Women Recovering from Religion

Mondays

5 pm PST · 6 pm MST · 7 pm CST · 8 pm EST

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Steady in the Storm: Navigating Anger in Deconstruction

Thursdays

5 pm PST · 6 pm MST · 7 pm CST · 8 pm EST

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If one of these groups interests you, please let me know now. Early expressions of interest help determine scheduling and group availability. If a different time suits you better, let me know that, too.

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Available year round: Free Religious Trauma Support Group

Every Tuesday

5 pm Pacific · 6 pm Mountain · 7 pm Central · 8 pm Eastern

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Expected 6-Week Support Groups for later 2026-early 2027

These virtual themed programs are one-hour weekly group sessions over the course of 6 weeks, limited to 10 people. Potential dates may change.

  • Shameless Sexuality: Liberation and Healing After Purity Culture (Nov/Dec 2026)

  • Unconditional You: Deconstruction for the LGBTQ+ Community (Nov/Dec 2026)

  • Sacred No More: Healing for Ex-clergy and Former Missionaries (Jan/Feb 2027)

  • Love in Transition: Deconstructing While Your Partner Doesn’t (Jan/Feb 2027)

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Please let me know what group or groups you are interested in joining, or if you have an idea for a themed support group others may also benefit from.

REBEL YELL: Women Recovering from Religion

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MONDAYS | September 14 – October 19, 2026 | 5 to 6 PM Pacific

Group size: 6-10 women and those assigned female at birth (AFAB)

Cost: $60 USD per participant

Location: Virtual and available worldwide

Many women leave religion, but find that religion doesn't leave them.

The beliefs may be gone, yet the messages remain. Ideas about obedience, modesty, self-sacrifice, and "being a good woman" can continue shaping relationships, self-worth, and everyday decisions long after faith has ended.

This six-week online support group combines evidence-informed teaching with compassionate discussion among women who understand the challenges of deconstruction. Together, we'll explore what you're ready to leave behind and how to move forward with greater confidence, self-trust, and freedom

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This group provides education and peer support and is not a substitute for individual mental health treatment.

This group is for AFAB/women who:

  • Have left or are questioning a patriarchal or high-control religious tradition

  • Are healing from purity culture, modesty teachings, or restrictive gender roles

  • Feel disconnected from their own voice or identity

  • Want healthier boundaries with religious family members

  • Are ready to build a life guided by their own values

What you'll gain:

  • A deeper understanding of how religion shaped your identity

  • Greater freedom from shame, guilt, and fear-based conditioning

  • Increased confidence in your own thoughts and decisions

  • Stronger boundaries and healthier relationships

  • Connection with women who truly understand your journey

Weekly Sessions

  • What Religious Trauma Looks Like for Women

    Explore how religious trauma and gendered expectations have shaped your experiences while building safety, connection, and a shared understanding within the group.

  • Separating Inherited Beliefs From Your Identity

    Identify the messages about worth, obedience, and "good womanhood" that no longer serve you, and begin reclaiming the freedom to think, feel, and choose for yourself.

  • Boundaries, Assertiveness, and Agency

    Strengthen your ability to identify your needs, communicate them clearly, and rebuild trust in your own judgment.

  • Healing from Modesty Culture and Control

    Reconnect with your body through a lens of autonomy, consent, and self-compassion while letting go of shame rooted in purity culture.

  • Community on Your Own Terms

    Learn healthier ways to navigate religious family dynamics, set boundaries, and build supportive relationships rooted in authenticity.

  • Integration, Identity, and Moving Forward

    Celebrate your resilience, clarify your values, and create a personalized plan for continuing your healing with confidence and self-trust.

Are you a woman or AFAB person healing from patriarchal religion?

Sign up today to join others who understand

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STEADY IN THE STORM: Navigating Anger in Deconstruction

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THURSDAYS | September 10 - October 15, 2026 | 5:00 PM Pacific

Group size: 6-10 people

Cost: $60 USD per participant

Location: Virtual and available worldwide

Leaving a high-control religion often brings anger that feels unfamiliar, overwhelming, or even frightening. Many of us were taught that anger was sinful, selfish, or a sign of spiritual failure. This six-week online support group offers a safe, compassionate space to understand your anger, regulate it, and use it as a guide rather than something to fear.

Through evidence-informed teaching and supportive discussion, you'll explore why anger emerges during deconstruction, how religious conditioning shaped your relationship with difficult emotions, and practical ways to move forward with greater confidence and peace.

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This group provides education and peer support and is not a substitute for individual mental health treatment.

This group is for people who:

  • Feel angry about their religious upbringing or community

  • Struggle with guilt when expressing anger

  • Want healthier ways to respond to conflict

  • Feel emotionally drained by religious conversations

  • Are ready to move beyond surviving deconstruction

What you'll gain:

  • A deeper understanding of what your anger is protecting

  • Practical tools to regulate your nervous system

  • Greater confidence expressing anger without shame

  • Healthier boundaries and communication skills

  • Increased self-compassion and emotional resilience

Weekly Sessions

  • Why Anger Shows Up During Deconstruction

    Explore why anger is a natural response to injustice, loss, and identity change, and learn how it differs from grief, fear, and betrayal.

  • Giving Yourself Permission to Feel Anger

    Examine how religious teachings discouraged anger and begin replacing guilt and forced forgiveness with emotional honesty.

  • Triggers, Roots, and Residual Beliefs

    Identify the situations and beliefs that fuel your anger and discover what it's trying to protect.

  • Tools for Calming the Body and Mind

    Practice evidence-informed strategies to calm your nervous system and respond to anger more intentionally.

  • Communicating Anger Safely and Effectively

    Learn to express anger confidently, set healthy boundaries, and navigate difficult conversations with less shame.

  • Integrating Anger as a Source of Wisdom and Strength

    Transform anger into a source of clarity, resilience, and self-trust while creating a personalized plan for continued growth.

Are you navigating anger after leaving religion?

Let’s talk about it and learn how to approach it with people who understand.

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  • While a formal diagnosis is not required, these themed support groups are designed to explore religious trauma topics and personal experiences affected by religion.

    Read more about Religious Trauma Syndrome here: www.janiceselbie.com/blog/signs-and-symptoms-of-religious-trauma-syndrome

  • Yes. As a queer woman myself, I ensure all individual and group sessions are a safe place for LGBTQ+ members and those questioning their sexuality or gender orientation.

  • Each one-hour session combines a brief check-in, teaching, guided group discussion and reflection, and a tool or takeaway you can use between sessions. The first session will also include time to get acquainted and establish a comfortable, supportive group environment.  

  • For the 6-week support group programs, please plan to attend all 6 sessions.

    For the free Tuesday support group, please attend any session you sign up for, as there are limited spots available each week. The free group has no set number of weeks for participation; all that is required is to sign up beforehand.

  • One of our group principles is that no one has to do anything they don’t want to do. Your choice and consent matter here.

    At the same time, each person’s participation adds something valuable to the group.

“I didn’t know how deeply my religious upbringing was still affecting me until your class. Learning the difference between indoctrination and education, and that fear doesn’t necessarily mean a teaching was true, has had a huge impact. Thank you for doing what you do!”

— Anonymous, former Mormon

“I was nervous to participate in your group workshop but I didn’t have to be. I felt safe and understood. Thank you for doing this.”

— Anonymous, former Catholic

Janice, you have made a difference in my life. Your group was the first time I shared my religious trauma with others. Even though our backgrounds were different, it felt like people could relate. Feeling validated gave me courage to make some changes. 

— Anonymous, former missionary
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Janice Selbie, MPCC

Clinical Counsellor · Author · Speaker · Educator

I was raised in a religious environment where certainty was prized over curiosity, so questions often felt unsafe.

Today, I draw on lived experience and more than a decade of professional practice to offer compassionate, practical guidance to people navigating change.

My Story